Thursday, April 28, 2011
Two wrong uses of Reason: underestimating the powerful role of Faith and overestimating the role of economic determinism.
Proponents of nebulous relativism have made two fatal miscalculations: first, they have underestimated the powerful role of Faith in the development of a universal culture, permanence of order and peace in society; and, second, they have overestimated the role of economic determinism in the cultural transformation of societies.
Women’s Opinions - What is for a woman a "mature real man"?.
by Natalio A. Yaria
This article is not the result of an academic research; nor does it pretend to be an exhaustive report, or a breakthrough, nor a contribution to the subject of young couples’ sexual behavior today. It is a summary report on group conversations and individual interviews that I organized and conducted with about 60 women from Europe, the United States, and Latin America, evenly distributed, who had started their sexual relationships between 1995 and 2000 at ages 15 and 20 with men a few years older. They were between the ages of 25 and 35 when I interviewed them during 2010 in Buenos Aires, Argentina. All of them were born between 1974 and 1979.
Because of the subject matter, it wasn’t easy to organize the individual interviews and groups. I received the help of many friends and I felt then, as I still do now, that the importance of the subject is not what these young couples did or do, but what the consequences and causes of what they do. I met them individually in cafes and restaurants and in groups of 15 at friends’ offices and schools’ conference rooms.
Here is my report:
My first reaction to these interviews is that, in the last ten years, while other more traditional women were happy to fall in love with a man who could be a good husband and father to their children, another group of women, 60 of them, that I will call the “Beautiful Princesses,” accepted “to experiment on a new way of life” and tried to seduce, or were seduced, by the equivalent of what I will call the “Blue Prince.”
The Blue Prince, as described by these women, is apparently a very self-confident handsome man, with good physical appearance, sometimes bearded, tattooed and casually dressed. In addition, while he seems to exhibit his masculinity with women, he constantly tries to emanate the image of “a modern man.” He would be the prototype of a man who believes that moral values are relative to each individual and , thus, there is no good or bad in this world; who enjoys entertainment nights drinking liquor, hard rock, sex and sometimes drugs; who is an assiduous traveler generally coming from a middle or upper income family; and who usually appears to be pleasing, proper, and of a good heart - but who sooner than later reveals to be immature, selfish, irresponsible, and a social parasite.
The majority of the Beautiful Princesses that tried to “seduce a seducer” suffered painful disappointments while trying to change the behavior of the Blue Prince and wasting years in unattainable dreams. In simpler terms, the lessons learned after their experiences are as follows:
1.The Blue Prince always promises to love, to be loyal and to provide protection; then the Beautiful Princess agrees to live together with the Blue Prince;
2.The Blue Prince always fades away after the first or second washing;
3. The Beautiful Princess ends up having to protect herself from the Blue Prince; and
4. As in the fairy tale - the Beautiful Princess becomes a witch, the Blue Prince turns into a frog, and if there are children, products of their relationship, they may become the real victims of their parents’ transgressions.
The second finding seems to indicate that these women have developed a generalized cynical perception of men:
1. if he is not married, he can be an unbearable bachelor; or
2. if he is separated from his wife, he is usually depressed; or
3. if he is divorced, he has been transformed into a cynical and bitter person.
To this vision should be added that these women are concerned that more men are openly declaring their homosexuality, which doesn’t include those with similar hidden preferences.
The third finding suggests that these women want to find and fall in love again with what they call a mature real man. Half of these women believe that “it is not true that there are fewer men available today”; what happens is that “women are demanding for themselves much more than they did before” which makes their search more difficult. However, the other half of the surveyed women – even if they agree with the second part of the statement - are more prone to accept with concern and resignation that a mature real man is becoming a “very scarce commodity.”
The fourth finding points out that, because of the complex personal characteristics and experiences that led these women to accept such relationships, they are in need of professional advice and family support to help them.
The fifth conclusion is that 82% of the women interviewed believe that their most important task is to reassess their moral principles while almost 70% believe that reestablishing “old fashion values” will aid them to avoid making the same mistakes. Almost 95% agree that they must avoid transferring their pains and resentments to new and more solid relationships with other mature real men in the future.
What do the majority of these women want from what they call a mature real man today?
1.To be of the same religion, to practice it, and to have sex after marriage;
2.To be solid on principles and values, but somehow flexible;
3.To be economically solid, but not to work the whole day;
4.To be generous to his family and those in real need, but not a squanderer;
5.To be at home, but not the whole day;
6.To be neat and clean, but not obsess by order and cleanliness;
7.To be attractive to other women, but not a womanizer;
8.To be a good lover and ready when both are ready;
9.To be protective, but no suffocating;
10.To be touched by the pain of others, but his brains controlling his feelings;
11.To be sociable, but friends will come after his wife and family;
12.To show his love and to be romantic, but not in excess;
13.To sleep together every night;
14.To comply with the family, but not to let his relatives influence him;and
15.To avoid being jealous, but never indifferent.
((()))
My conclusions:
The behavior of both, the Beautiful Princess as well as the Blue Prince, are mostly the direct result of the influence of those who methodically and relentlessly try to replace Judeo-Christian values with the noxious interest in sexual matters rooted in the modern secularism of the 1960’s and 1970’s.
Both are the victims of the more immoral and disreputable characters whose intent was to make people learn or assimilate things, often without fully understanding them. Many of the women interviewed have come to the conclusion that their naiveté, and some degree of arrogance, had left them without defenses falling into the trap that Truth is relative and the Ten Commandments are just old fashion suggestions.
The consequences of accepting the principles of modern secularism should not be a surprise to anybody; for it requires setting aside the moral values and principles of their faith outside of certain activities. Their aim to separate Faith from Reason has resulted in the modern farce of being unscientific and incongruous; this modern farce has ripped this younger generation apart, effectively and purposely removing it from the moral values and principles where it had been firmly set.
This observable fact is not an isolated event. For instance, there is an attempt by modern secularism to propose that the Holy Bible should be relativized, to be dissolved in religious pluralism with the purpose of making it disappear as a cultural normative reference. Throughout history many have tried it from outside the Church - and within it - and failed; suffice to mention Stalin and his emissaries’ attempts in different places around the world in the recent past.
The Prefect of the Congregation for Bishops of the Catholic Church, Cardinal Marc Ouellet said that this crisis "has also penetrated inside the Church, as some new exegesis (biblical interpretation) has taken over the Bible to dissect the various stages and forms of human composition, removing the miracles and wonders multiplying the hypotheses, and seeding, not infrequently, the confusion among the faithful."
The intellectual leaders and followers of modern secularism have succeeded in camouflaging themselves behind the so-called “freedom of expression” and “individuality.” Using a collaborative press and media, they have massively fed this young unperceptive generation with this way of life. Given a choice other than modern secularism they may have rejected it.
This article is not the result of an academic research; nor does it pretend to be an exhaustive report, or a breakthrough, nor a contribution to the subject of young couples’ sexual behavior today. It is a summary report on group conversations and individual interviews that I organized and conducted with about 60 women from Europe, the United States, and Latin America, evenly distributed, who had started their sexual relationships between 1995 and 2000 at ages 15 and 20 with men a few years older. They were between the ages of 25 and 35 when I interviewed them during 2010 in Buenos Aires, Argentina. All of them were born between 1974 and 1979.
Because of the subject matter, it wasn’t easy to organize the individual interviews and groups. I received the help of many friends and I felt then, as I still do now, that the importance of the subject is not what these young couples did or do, but what the consequences and causes of what they do. I met them individually in cafes and restaurants and in groups of 15 at friends’ offices and schools’ conference rooms.
Here is my report:
My first reaction to these interviews is that, in the last ten years, while other more traditional women were happy to fall in love with a man who could be a good husband and father to their children, another group of women, 60 of them, that I will call the “Beautiful Princesses,” accepted “to experiment on a new way of life” and tried to seduce, or were seduced, by the equivalent of what I will call the “Blue Prince.”
The Blue Prince, as described by these women, is apparently a very self-confident handsome man, with good physical appearance, sometimes bearded, tattooed and casually dressed. In addition, while he seems to exhibit his masculinity with women, he constantly tries to emanate the image of “a modern man.” He would be the prototype of a man who believes that moral values are relative to each individual and , thus, there is no good or bad in this world; who enjoys entertainment nights drinking liquor, hard rock, sex and sometimes drugs; who is an assiduous traveler generally coming from a middle or upper income family; and who usually appears to be pleasing, proper, and of a good heart - but who sooner than later reveals to be immature, selfish, irresponsible, and a social parasite.
The majority of the Beautiful Princesses that tried to “seduce a seducer” suffered painful disappointments while trying to change the behavior of the Blue Prince and wasting years in unattainable dreams. In simpler terms, the lessons learned after their experiences are as follows:
1.The Blue Prince always promises to love, to be loyal and to provide protection; then the Beautiful Princess agrees to live together with the Blue Prince;
2.The Blue Prince always fades away after the first or second washing;
3. The Beautiful Princess ends up having to protect herself from the Blue Prince; and
4. As in the fairy tale - the Beautiful Princess becomes a witch, the Blue Prince turns into a frog, and if there are children, products of their relationship, they may become the real victims of their parents’ transgressions.
The second finding seems to indicate that these women have developed a generalized cynical perception of men:
1. if he is not married, he can be an unbearable bachelor; or
2. if he is separated from his wife, he is usually depressed; or
3. if he is divorced, he has been transformed into a cynical and bitter person.
To this vision should be added that these women are concerned that more men are openly declaring their homosexuality, which doesn’t include those with similar hidden preferences.
The third finding suggests that these women want to find and fall in love again with what they call a mature real man. Half of these women believe that “it is not true that there are fewer men available today”; what happens is that “women are demanding for themselves much more than they did before” which makes their search more difficult. However, the other half of the surveyed women – even if they agree with the second part of the statement - are more prone to accept with concern and resignation that a mature real man is becoming a “very scarce commodity.”
The fourth finding points out that, because of the complex personal characteristics and experiences that led these women to accept such relationships, they are in need of professional advice and family support to help them.
The fifth conclusion is that 82% of the women interviewed believe that their most important task is to reassess their moral principles while almost 70% believe that reestablishing “old fashion values” will aid them to avoid making the same mistakes. Almost 95% agree that they must avoid transferring their pains and resentments to new and more solid relationships with other mature real men in the future.
What do the majority of these women want from what they call a mature real man today?
1.To be of the same religion, to practice it, and to have sex after marriage;
2.To be solid on principles and values, but somehow flexible;
3.To be economically solid, but not to work the whole day;
4.To be generous to his family and those in real need, but not a squanderer;
5.To be at home, but not the whole day;
6.To be neat and clean, but not obsess by order and cleanliness;
7.To be attractive to other women, but not a womanizer;
8.To be a good lover and ready when both are ready;
9.To be protective, but no suffocating;
10.To be touched by the pain of others, but his brains controlling his feelings;
11.To be sociable, but friends will come after his wife and family;
12.To show his love and to be romantic, but not in excess;
13.To sleep together every night;
14.To comply with the family, but not to let his relatives influence him;and
15.To avoid being jealous, but never indifferent.
((()))
My conclusions:
The behavior of both, the Beautiful Princess as well as the Blue Prince, are mostly the direct result of the influence of those who methodically and relentlessly try to replace Judeo-Christian values with the noxious interest in sexual matters rooted in the modern secularism of the 1960’s and 1970’s.
Both are the victims of the more immoral and disreputable characters whose intent was to make people learn or assimilate things, often without fully understanding them. Many of the women interviewed have come to the conclusion that their naiveté, and some degree of arrogance, had left them without defenses falling into the trap that Truth is relative and the Ten Commandments are just old fashion suggestions.
The consequences of accepting the principles of modern secularism should not be a surprise to anybody; for it requires setting aside the moral values and principles of their faith outside of certain activities. Their aim to separate Faith from Reason has resulted in the modern farce of being unscientific and incongruous; this modern farce has ripped this younger generation apart, effectively and purposely removing it from the moral values and principles where it had been firmly set.
This observable fact is not an isolated event. For instance, there is an attempt by modern secularism to propose that the Holy Bible should be relativized, to be dissolved in religious pluralism with the purpose of making it disappear as a cultural normative reference. Throughout history many have tried it from outside the Church - and within it - and failed; suffice to mention Stalin and his emissaries’ attempts in different places around the world in the recent past.
The Prefect of the Congregation for Bishops of the Catholic Church, Cardinal Marc Ouellet said that this crisis "has also penetrated inside the Church, as some new exegesis (biblical interpretation) has taken over the Bible to dissect the various stages and forms of human composition, removing the miracles and wonders multiplying the hypotheses, and seeding, not infrequently, the confusion among the faithful."
The intellectual leaders and followers of modern secularism have succeeded in camouflaging themselves behind the so-called “freedom of expression” and “individuality.” Using a collaborative press and media, they have massively fed this young unperceptive generation with this way of life. Given a choice other than modern secularism they may have rejected it.
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